Your power over anger
Sometimes people’s anger feels far bigger than the disagreement or situation at hand. It can happen when a casual chat about differing opinions—or a lighthearted debate—suddenly spirals into a storm of frustration, raised voices, and sharp words. In those moments, the reaction seems out of proportion to the issue, and you’re left wondering, “Where did all this anger come from? Why can’t we just share our opinions without it turning into a fight?” Let’s get real simple about anger: it often boils down to one thing—fear. When people get angry, it's usually because they’re afraid. Afraid of losing control, getting hurt, failing—fear shows up and anger becomes a shield. It’s the fight part of the "fight-or-flight" response, making you feel strong and in control while hiding the vulnerability of fear. Think about it: Fear of rejection can turn into anger during an argument, as people lash out to protect themselves from feeling hurt. Fear of failure might make someone snap...